Single parenting in any form is
often quite challenging, if not extremely difficult. Rather than our allies,
time and resources are usually against us; and there is always the potential emotional
rollercoaster due to resistance from the other parent or family members. As
single fathers, we must come to the realization that some circumstances are
within our realm of influence, but many will be out of our hands. In times like
these, we have the opportunity to rise to the occasion and keep our focus on
our walk with the Lord and our children. To help you filter through the chaos
that can quite often impair our better judgment, here are a few quick tips to
help you be a great single father─ even in the most imperfect of circumstances.
1.
Stay grounded
Jesus gives us clear examples throughout the Gospels that storms WILL
hit, but our foundation must be built on Him alone and through Him we can do
anything. Despite everything that may be going on all around, make it a point
to stay in the Word and prayer, and surround yourself with a strong and godly
support system.
2.
Check your emotions at the altar
Anger, bitterness, worry and doubt will eat you alive if left unattended.
Again, we are called to serve Christ first, and then our children. Even if you
are struggling in some of the above examples, find a healthy outlet such as a
pastor or mentor to vent to. Definitely stay strong for your children, all
while learning what it means to “love thy neighbor”.
3.
Know your position
Paul gives us clear instruction in Ephesians 6:4: Fathers do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up
in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (NASB, emphasis added) Whether
you are a full-time or every other weekend dad, God has given US the specific
task as our kid’s spiritual leader. Pray with your kids, take them to church,
and model Jesus in some way whenever possible. The rewards will be eternal.
4. Render to Caesar…
Part of being a servant leader is following the laws of the land. Stay up
to date on child support and/or alimony. You can always file an appeal later.
And, render what is God’s too: so keep your heart right when it comes to
tithing.
5.
You are Dad- for life!
I definitely know how bad it can sting being limited by another person or
the courts. But our role as Dad doesn’t stop at 18. Our greatest job as fathers
(married or single) is to lead our kids in Christ and prepare them for
adulthood. So no matter where you find yourself in all of this today, hold fast
to God’s Word and all of the promises He gives us and look past the now towards
the glory to be revealed.
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