Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Knowing Your Weapon


And when they had prayed, the place where they were assembled together was shaken; and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and they spoke the word of God with boldness. –Acts 4:31 (NKJV)
Have you ever seen “The Ghost and the Darkness”, starring Val Kilmer and Michael Douglas? It’s a great movie and based upon a true story of two man-eating lions that terrorized an African village back in the late 1800’s. Here is one scene that I find especially interesting as to how it relates to us as Christians:


In the scene prior to this one, Dr. Hawthorne (played by Bernard Hill) joins the group of hunters as they ceremonially prepare for the hunt. He approaches Colonel Patterson (Kilmer) and asks, “Will you exchange weapons with me? Mine is much more powerful.”
From my perspective, here are a few quick points in the movie I believe we can learn and grow from:

The Deception
Patterson’s troubles began the night before when he exchanges weapons with the doctor, well before he even encountered the lion. He trusted something that was not proven and fell for the line regarding a more powerful weapon. You see, our enemy will often attempt to lure us away with other more attractive means to cope in life other than God’s Word, ones that in turn are not a threat to him (2Cor 4:4). When we do, we are set up in advance before the attack even comes. Patterson believed a statement not based on truth and it nearly cost him his life.

The Hunt
Just before they entered the thicket, Remington (Douglas) instructs the Colonel to take the high ground in case the lion gets through and he will have a clear shot for the kill. The second mistake Patterson makes is when he leaves his place on high and brings himself down to a lower level- an area where his enemy thrives. It is here where he finds himself face to face with almost certain death, because he compromised his position. Once again, God has given us everything we need to maintain ground above Satan, but so often we make foolish compromises and find ourselves in greater trouble (Eph 6:18).

The Misfire
Did you see how fast an obvious victory turned into probably the most frightening moment of Patterson’s life the second that empty “click” sounded where there should have been a bang? Confidence became horror and the sounds and memories of the lion killings in the past suddenly became all too real. When we walk in our own confidence and not in faith in the Lord, we are given a false sense of security and given the opportunity, our enemy will bring up old pain from the past. We must constantly walk in that assurance and trust that only comes in God (Jer 17:5, 7).

The Lesson and Promise
Remington’s words to Patterson near the end of the scene are what really bring this all together. Dumbfounded, he asks, “You exchanged weapons? You went into battle with an unproven rifle?” We may not have a spiritual “rifle” per say, but we do have a sword (Eph 6:17). But I will say this: the Bible is only as good to us as we are trained to use it. We cannot fight and defeat our enemy if we just hold it up and fire off empty shots. Precision and victory only come through time and familiarity with our weapons of warfare. Maybe you have been knocked down as the end of the clip suggests; and maybe you do get up. Keep in mind though that our adversary will continue to prowl, seek, and devour those in his path- that is until he meets a highly trained warrior that goes on the offensive and skillfully and masterfully hunts him down first.  

For He will give His angels charge concerning you, to guard you in all your ways…You will tread upon the lion and the cobra, the young lion and serpent you will trample down. Because he has loved Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him securely on high, because he has known my name. –Psalm 91:11, 13-14

Sunday, October 20, 2013

Single Dad Pizza Party

We are having a night of food and fellowship for any and all single dads living in West Michigan. Come on out on Thursday November 14th from 7:30-9pm to enjoy some free pizza, time with our group, and learn more about what A Father's Walk is all about.

Location is the DOCK ministry: 4669 S Division SW  Wyoming, MI 49428

*This event is for single dads (full or partial custody) only and childcare is not available.

For more information, please call Matt at 616-581-4409.


Thursday, October 17, 2013

Fishers of Men

Here is my latest article from Crosswalk. Church! (both the buildings AND the Body): it's time to get up, get out, and GO make disciples when it comes to single fathers:

http://www.crosswalk.com/family/parenting/single-parents/church-be-fishers-of-men.html?ps=0

Friday, October 4, 2013

Living Pure in an Impure World


To the pure all things are pure, but to those who are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure; but even their mind and conscience are defiled. –Titus 1:15 (NKJV)

Okay, so not the most sought-after small group topic, especially for a group of single men; but this was our group discussion last night. Why? Well in short, for a few reasons: First, statistics have shown that up to 80% of Christian singles are still having sex outside of marriage. Second, the defilement of this world goes far beyond sexual exploits- it has infected our culture, our minds, and our families. As Christian believers and fathers, we must learn how to stand against the world and seek Christ through it all. Finally, we are called to lead our children in Christ and not the ways of this world (Eph 6:4). I mentioned last night of how the phrase “Do as I say and not as I do” is the biggest bunch of bull and should NEVER be part of any parent’s vocabulary. With that being said, here is a quick rundown of the topics and verses we covered. I pray it helps to shed some “Light” on your own life if need be in certain areas too (Eph 5:11-14).

Types of Purity
Sexual (1Thess 4:3-7, 2Tim 2:22, 1Cor 6:18-20)

Mental (Phil 4:8, Rom 12:2)

Verbal, visual, audible (Eph 4:29, James 3:1-12, Psalms 101:3, Job 31:1, Matt 6:22-23)
*Note: I didn’t find a verse for “audible” purity, but that goes by saying that we should be attentive to what we allow to enter our ears as well (i.e. Defiled language, blasphemies, secular music, etc…)
Ethical/Moral (Job 1:8-12, 2:3, 2:4-9, 2Chron 16:9)

To ponder and discuss:

Recognizing where we fall short

Arming ourselves for battle and protection

Claiming victory as followers of Christ

Question: As Christian fathers, why is it so imperative that we abide by God’s commands in regards to purity? What will this mean for our kids?
The abbreviated answer is God has placed a very amazing gift and admonishment upon us to father and steward His sons and daughters. By us remaining faithful and teaching them the same, we are giving our children a first-hand look at what a man of God is like; which in turn will help us to raise godly sons and help our daughters look for the same in a future relationship.

Although I could go on and on about this topic, the fact remains that we are constant works in progress (Phil 1:6) and God has given us everything we need to champion purity in our own lives. If you do in fact fall short, hold fast to His promises, knock the dust off, and get back in the game. Here is one of those promises from our good friend Paul that sums up the grace and love that is bestowed upon each one of us every single day:
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according  to the flesh, but according to the Spirit (emphasis added)…Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. –Rom 8:1, 37-39 (NKJV)

Thursday, October 3, 2013

Social Media Links

If you haven't already seen on our homepage, you can now follow AFW on Facebook and Twitter:

https://www.facebook.com/AFathersWalkSingleDadMinistry 

https://twitter.com/AFW4Him  (@AFW4Him)


We are also in the process of putting together an eNewsletter- so stay tuned for that in the near future!

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Addictions


For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds… -2Cor 10:4 (NKJV)

For those of us who have suffered from (or continue to) an addiction, stronghold, or some sort of bondage we are well aware that some die quicker than others. Whether you have overcome some serious battles or are still in the fight, here are a few quick tips to help see you through and maintain safety to avoid falling back.

1.      Prayer of Repentance

Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me…the sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, a broken and contrite heart… -Psalm 51:10,17
Look, God knows we are broken people living in a broken world. Although that is understandable, it is not a free pass to sin willingly. We are either moving in one of two ways in our walks- forwards or backwards (“Neutral” is still counterproductive, thus backwards). David knew he screwed up with Bathsheba, but his heart was always one of repentance and crying out for God’s mercy over his life. The same goes for us; understanding that our Father comforts and is there for His kids when they need Him the most and cry out for His help. When we confess our sins before the Lord, He is faithful and just to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1John 1:9)

 

2.      Be ready to fight

We will only arrive in heaven bloody and covered in sweat and dust, but with the sword still in our hand. –Harvest USA article

I have had multiple conversations with others about how there is nothing in the New Testament that says that following Jesus is a cakewalk. In fact, it’s quite the opposite as Jesus reminds us all that we are being sent out as sheep among wolves and how the Kingdom of God constantly suffers violence (Matt 10:16, 11:12). The moment we enter into this world there is an all-out war declared on our souls; when we accept Christ as Lord that war is not magnified- it’s just clarified. God is our shelter and stronghold continually, but He also places other tools around us to assist in times of need. When facing the challenges of overcoming an addiction (or preventing a relapse), it is wise to surround yourself with other strong, godly individuals, stay in the Word and prayer continually, and of course- remove any outside influences that may cause you to fall (1Cor 15:33). Recognizing the battle that is before you and having a strategic plan in place are key points to your victory in Christ.

 
3.      Make sure He’s on the Throne

And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free…therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed. –John 8:32,36

Going off of my previous point, God gives us tools and resources to help win the battle, but we are never free if we are doing on our own will power. I attended AA, NA, and CA for years and have been through two stints at rehab. BUT, it was not until I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior and was baptized that I was set free from some serious addictions. I will admit, some did die quicker than others and I will also be the first to admit that I still fight daily in some areas. However, I also realize that each day I grow stronger in my walk those sinful desires that are still lingering are pushed further and further back. There is nothing wrong with asking for help, just make sure He is still Lord and everything you do matches up with God’s Word.

 Paul reminds us in Phil 1:6 that we are all constant works in progress. Keep an open and soft heart, one that is ready to repent and cry out to God continually; stay in the battle and keep your eyes on the Cross; and above all- keep God first in your life. When you do, His grace and strength will be evident in your life and the victory will be yours to share with others the Good News of Jesus Christ.