Going Forth With Praise

O our God, will You not judge them? For we have no power against this great multitude that is coming against us; nor do we know what to do, but our eyes are upon You…And when he had consulted with the people, he appointed those who should sing to the Lord, and who praise the beauty of holiness, as they went out before the army and were saying: “Praise the Lord, for His mercy endures forever.” -2Chron 20:12, 21 (NKJV)

            How is your praise life? Not your prayer life- your praise life. Are you giving God the glory for all of the blessings in your life? Even better question: are you praising Him for the storms? If we read the entire passage in 2Chron 20:1-30 we find king Jehoshaphat and all of Judah facing innumerable odds against their approaching enemies. Sure, the king was frightened- for he knew that man to man they could not win this battle. Jehoshaphat was a righteous man of God and like any strong leader and man of faith, he reacted immediately with wisdom and faith in the Lord.

1.      Upon learning of the approaching threat, the first thing the king did was bring his people together to corporately fast and seek the Lord (v 3,4). This brought together a bond of unity throughout the land and prepared everyone’s heart for what lay ahead. Division causes confusion and is a scare tactic of our enemy. When we are unified with God through our faith in Christ, we secure a foundation that is not easily broken (Ecc 4:12).

2.      He reminded God of His promises. Jehoshaphat didn’t ask for a bail out. He was prepared to do God’s will regardless (v 9), but he also pleaded with God on behalf of the land spoke of God’s promises and faithfulness over Israel. Obviously, God does not need reminding; but it is in these moments of crying out to God that He can do His best work within us and increase our faith. Just like David, Jehoshaphat kept his eyes on God- not his circumstances (v 12).

 

3.      Praise went forth first. After the Lord spoke through the prophet Jahaziel and assured Judah they would not even have to fight this battle, the king still positioned his “praise team” to go forth first. Why do you think that is? Because praise always overcomes oppression (Isaiah 61:3). Israel’s enemies would defeat themselves and though what was perceived in the natural to be a losing fight, we must always remember that God works in both the natural AND the supernatural. We can’t fight spiritual battles on fleshy terms.

            So what are you up against today? Are you feeling a lot like Judah- with enemies closing in from all sides? Do the odds seem to be stacked overwhelmingly against you? Well, if that is the case you have reason to celebrate! Please don’t forget that we all have a High Priest that has gone on before us to clear the path to freedom. Our job is to keep our eyes on Him and offer up the sacrifice of praise, the fruit of our lips (Heb 13:15). For that is when God can do His best work.

For we were saved in this hope, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one still hope for what he sees? –Romans 8:24

Single Fathers and today's Church podcast

Here is a podcast I recorded with Pastor Kyle Ray of Kentwood Community Church. It is on today's Church and single fathers. Enjoy!

http://www.woodradio.com/media/podcast-a-fathers-walk-single-dads-podcast-AFathersWalkPodcast/single-dads-and-the-church-24161299/

Living the Dream

A man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before great men. –Prov 18:16 (NASB)

            In his video series Dream to Destiny, Pastor Robert Morris makes the statement that “Everyone has a God-given dream and everyone has a God-given destiny.” Pastor Morris goes on to explain that all too often most people spend so much time focusing on the dream that they never get around to living their destiny.

            Has God laid something specific on your heart that only you can accomplish? Perhaps it is to be an amazing parent, but one that follows His will and statutes for your family’s life. In order to do so, there may need to be some major changes or alterations in your current lifestyle. So what can you do about it- today? Or maybe God has called you to lead your company in a different direction, something that totally goes against the grain of society. This may require you to make some bold and perhaps illogical moves; but if it truly is from the Lord then He will see it come to pass. What about a call to ministry? That was the choice I was faced with last year- to quit my full time job and launch into the single dad ministry. Now here I am six months later. I have seen some amazing doors open and opportunities arise; but yet, I still feel as if I need to push deeper into where God is leading. I believe that for all of us, if He has given us a God-appointed destiny, the Lord will not just bring us right to the edge and say, “There you go. Good luck!” No, God will equip us with all of the right tools and resources to go from living the dream to living in our destiny. We need to have the faith, courage, and discernment to walk in it.

            The Bible says, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” (Eph 2:10) Right there is evidence from God Himself that we ALL have a higher purpose in life than what many of us may currently be seeking. Going back to my original question, what has God laid on your heart to accomplish? My next question would be, “What’s holding you back?” Remember, He holds all of our circumstances in His hands- the good, the bad, and the ugly; but also know that for every challenge we may come across in life, God has also provided an answer in His Word to help us go “from dream to destiny”.

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. –Rom 8:28 (NKJV)

Note: You can learn more about Robert Morris’ series Dream to Destiny at www.theblessedlife.com/series/dream-destiny.

Are You Listening?

…And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains…but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice. -1Kings 19:11-12 (NKJV)

            We had a great sermon on fasting yesterday- to “tune” ourselves to be able to hear and discern God’s voice in our lives. Sometimes we not only get so caught up in all of the busyness and noise of the world, but even our own prayers and petitions become such a one-way street that we don’t even give God a chance to speak- or for us to listen. As the above verse points out, God doesn’t always use the awesome and magnificent to communicate with us. Often it is just a soft whisper or some other means to get His point across. Such was the case for me recently that I got so caught up in what I want (or didn’t want) that I didn’t even bother to inquire to the Lord until I was all worked up.

            I’ve said it time and time again: we need to shut our lives down on a regular basis so we can move forward in the direction God wants us to go. This goes beyond our routine quiet time (hopefully you are at least getting that) and regular worship. To really hear and walk with God we have to get to a point where He is our sole focus. Fasting helps to drown out the worldly distractions, but also our physical too. I have noticed lately as I partook in a two week fast just how much more calm and “still” I am- all of which has allowed me to finally give God His due chance to reveal Himself to me. As human beings we all naturally share some of the same struggles, though not necessarily all at the same time or to the same degree.

            Perhaps you are struggling with being single right now (the holidays aren’t always easy when you are). If so, use this time to prepare and work on yourself so that God can put the right person in your life. I sure wouldn’t trust my own daughter with a guy who doesn’t measure up to God’s standards, so I imagine He wouldn’t either. Or maybe it’s finances (join the club). Fasting and tithing aren’t just for Sunday morning sermons and back in Old Testament times. They are a personal example of our loyalty and trust in God and His Word. If in fact times are tight right now financially, then there is no better time to lean on God and listen for instructions on how to proceed forward. As our pastor pointed out yesterday, so often people pull out at the last second from a faith move when they were right on the edge of a major breakthrough. Finally, maybe it’s a career or vocational move. Getting extremely quiet before the Lord for a significant period of time is essential when making such a big decision. Yes, God opens doors for us; but we need to be paying attention to the road too to avoid any hazards along the way.

            So wherever you find yourself today- flying or falling, on the clouds or in the valley, just know that our God is a God of the extraordinary; but sometimes that means in the most humble of ways. Something as simple as denying ourselves temporary pleasures now can pay off in eternal ways down the road- but only if we are willing to listen.

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven –Ecc 3:1

Away for the Holidays

For who is God, except the Lord? And who is a rock, except our God? It is God who arms me with strength, and makes my ways perfect. –Psalm 18:31-32 (NKJV)

            Well, it’s that time of year again: time for lights and bells, family and food, presents with our kids…or maybe not. Perhaps this is a time of year we as single parents may not be too fond of- especially if we are away from our children over the holidays. Co-parenting, split custody, and a variety of other factors may be inhibiting your chance to have a traditional Christmas morning with your kids; and it may be even more painful if this is your first year as a single parent. Coming from someone who has endured many a heartaches over the years as a single dad during the holidays, I sympathize with you. However, I also want to give you encouragement that this is not the end all, be all. Here are a few quick tips you can use to not only build yourself up, but also provide your children with a great Christmas- even if you’re not there.

1.      Prepare your heart

Before we do anything, let’s make sure our hearts are in the right place. Ask the Lord to remove any feelings of anger, guilt, or bitterness that may distract you from letting His love flow through this transition. David said it best in Psalm 57:7: “My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast; I will sing and give praise.” Be mindful to keep a soft heart during this season- one that is full of worship and praise for God.

2.      Connect with your kids

This may or not be an option for you. If it is, go ahead and make that phone call, send them a text, Skype, or any other means to talk with them. Use the time wisely to build them up with love and affirmation and wish them a very Merry Christmas. Don’t dwell on the negatives (even if you have to bite your tongue) and make sure whatever you say to them leaves them for the better that day (Eph 4:29).

 

3.      Laugh!

The Bible tells us that “a merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones.” (Prov 17:22)  Going back to the previous point, if you get the chance to talk with your son or daughter, make it a time of joy and laughter. This will leave everyone involved with a joyful and healing heart after the conversation is done. On the flip side, if you aren’t able to talk with them, a great alternative would be to reflect back on memories past with your kids, ones that bring you joy. You may even want share stories with others and tell them how much they make you happy.

 

4.      It’s just a day

We have no historical or Biblical records that suggest Jesus was actually born on December 25^th. Instead, we need to focus on the bigger picture: bringing our children up in Christ and preparing them for the world ahead. Yes, there is something special about Christmas morning; but let’s look at it this way: Which do you think would be more important- having your kids every year on Christmas Day and never instilling God’s Word into them…or using the time you DO have to love them and teach them His statues? Remember, we’re fighting for eternity here. And besides, kids really don’t care what the day is- as long as they get presents. 

5.      The greatest gift of all

Our human side tends to want to dominate our spirit constantly (Gal 5:17). It may sound cliché, but Jesus IS the reason we celebrate! A life lived apart from Him and the peace, promise, and joy He brings really isn’t much of a life at all. If you have already made the decision to follow Him as your Lord and Savior, then the rest is just added blessings. If you have not, today is a perfect day to hit your knees, confess your sins, and ask Jesus Christ to be the Lord of your life. God has given us the greatest gift of all in His Son. You may be apart from your son or daughter this year, but the Lord is not and your Father is longing to spend Christmas Day with you!

...I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people. For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. –Luke 2:10-11

Hold the Phone

…let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath –James 1:19 (NKJV)

 

            Anyone out there ever get off the phone with your ex and felt like calling right back to chew them out? Or how about when an unsavory text comes through and you feel like letting them have it, because it’s easier to speak your mind digitally versus talking it out civilly in person? Yeah, I thought so- me too.  

            Such was the case for me this past week when I asked my daughter’s mom via text message for a small favor. All I got back was a very short reply that did not accommodate my request. In a moment of frustration, the thoughts ran through my mind of what I would have really liked to say to her right then, but thank the Lord I bit my tongue. I didn’t even take a second to remember that just like an email, text messages can be easily misconstrued. I replied back with a simple “Ok” and let it go. To my surprise, she texted me back within a few minutes and had changed her mind, totally accommodating my request. This definitely would not have happened if I had overreacted and texted her back ASAP expressing my frustration. Yes, patience is a virtue. Later on that evening, she texted me with a simple request of her own: I had sort of let the cat out of the bag that our daughter was invited to a surprise birthday party and she asked me not to do that again. I didn’t reply back that evening because although I knew I had been in the wrong, I’m sure in an attempt to cover my own mistake I would’ve said something totally uncalled for back to her, even though she did nothing wrong. I’ll be the first to admit that we guys hate to be wrong- but that’s a whole nother blog post. Fast forward a couple days later and I found myself texting her back to apologize for telling our daughter about the party and said that I would be more conscious in the future not to do that again. She replied back with a simple “thank u”.

            Yes, the often non-stop drama or challenges of single and co-parenting can sometimes be quite draining, but that is never an excuse to be disobedient concerning our walk with God. Use these times as opportunities to grow yourself and to show Christ to your ex (or whoever else) what a true follower of Jesus looks like. If you do, I believe the end results will far exceed those if we were to take matters into our own hands; God will be glorified through it all; and everyone will come out winners- especially your children.

For the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. –James 1:20

Marriage and Our Children

Behold, I set before you today a blessing and a curse: the blessing, if you obey the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you today; and the curse, if you do not obey the commandments of the Lord your God… -Deut 11:26-28 (NKJV)

            On the way home from a conference in Georgia last week, I had the pleasure of sitting next to a man on the plane who is quite high in position in the world of fathering. We exchanged conversation regarding our individual ministries; one of the questions I found quite unique that he asked me was about how I minister to single dads when it comes to marriage. I must admit, it isn’t a topic that we discuss regularly; overcoming divorce, yes, but not marriage.

            Here was his point: for those of us who are single parents, do we want our children to grow up to be a single mom or a single dad as well? Of course not. “Then”, he went on to say, “you need to be showing and teaching your children what a godly marriage looks like.” Marriage, as an institution, is very healthy and God-ordained. Individuals often fail in marriage. For example, if you buy a brand new Mercedes, get drunk, and crash it, does that mean all Mercedes are destined to crash? Obviously not; but it is when the individual who was doing the driving broke the rules that the car crashed. Same principle applies here. No matter what sort of situation we may be in or come from, our job as Christian parents is to teach our kids from our mistakes; but more importantly, show them what God’s example for their life is. Yes, your marriage may have failed and it has left an ugly mark on your family. But that is no excuse to wallow in it and let your children see how the effects of marriage (and potential divorce) can taint their life. Instead, tell them where things went wrong (age appropriate and without slamming your ex) and how mom and dad may have failed…but God did not. Use God’s Word as the ultimate foundation of how He loves to bring us together in holy matrimony with the opposite sex, and the examples Jesus gives us on how to love unconditionally.

            For those of us who have never been married (myself included), this is an excellent time for personal growth and reflection, and to learn more about what the Bible tells us when it comes to the institution of Marriage. Marriage is not the enemy. Marriage as a God-created unification of two souls is one of the greatest things we can ever experience here during our short time on this earth. It is only when one or both of the individuals fail that things fall apart. We need to use wisdom and discernment to grow ourselves and pass the Lord’s truths on to our kids. So the next time you have your kids at the park, mall, or even at a wedding, and you see a married couple that is head over heels for each other, instead of retracting in your own personal bitterness or anger, use that as a rare opportunity to turn your son or daughter towards them and whisper in their ear, “That’s what I want for you one day.”